After all this time...

...was happiness right if front of me all along? Timing, circumstance and opportunity work in ways that I can't comprehend (and probably shouldn't try either). "Things happen for a reason"... they sure do.

"1. Out of clutter, find simplicity. 2. From discord, find harmony. 3. In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity." - Albert Einstein

Thank You

Sometimes even I need a good kick in the ass.  Thanks for sticking around even when I was an ass and giving me a  good kick to it.

Joke!!

This joke is so lame but for some reason I just couldn't stop chuckling for a good 30 minutes.

One day Mr. Smith, the president of a corporation, called his vice-president, Dave, into his office and said, "We're making some cutbacks, so either Jack or Barbara will have to be laid off."

Dave looked at Mr. Smith and said, "Barbara is my best worker, but Jack has a wife and three kids. I don't know whom to fire."

The next morning Dave waited for his employees to arrive.

Barbara was the first to come in, so Dave said, "Barbara, I've got a problem. You see, I've got to lay you or Jack off and I don't know what to do?"

Barbara replied, "You'd better jack off. I've got a headache."

"Not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted." - Albert Einstein

P.S

I also forgot to say that there is one more thing I need in a relationship.  Passion.  I need the "can't keep our hands off each other" kind of fire.  I want to feel the need to have her by my side, to physically touch her, and have my body miss having her lying next to me.  And I want her to miss me the same way.  Now I know that type of fire may burn down as the relationship goes on, but that fire should never burn out.  As long as the spark is there, the passion can be reignited.

Alignment

I have never in my life really felt... aligned.  Don't get me wrong I've been happy.  But I've never had that complete feeling that where I am, is where I'm supposed to be.  There's always been something missing...  I know that I should be happy with what I have, and I am.  But I've never had the feeling of, for lack of a better word, alignment. 

So I was recently given a book to read from a female friend, "He's Just Not That Into You".  Yes I know it's a chick book, but I think that ANYONE looking for advice in relationships will find that it holds value.  Anyway, the book has helped me remember that when someone really cares about you, they won't forget to call you, won't be "too busy" for you, won't have more important things to do.  In fact, it'll be quite the opposite.  They'll go out of their way to talk to you or be with you. They can't wait to see you, can't wait to talk to you, do things outside their comfort zone to make you feel special.  Not to mention that they show appreciation for the things you do for them.  You won't have to make excuses for them because they constantly disappoint or hurt you, because if they really cared about you, they wouldn't put you in that position in the first place.  That's the kind of love I want, someone who puts me first and goes out of their way to show it, because that's what I offer in return.  You may think, "Wow you must think you're hot shit to think you deserve someone like that."  But the thing is, I think EVERYONE deserves that.  And when you're in love, that sort of thing comes automatically.  When you love someone, doing something for them doesn't feel like "work".  It puts a smile on your face knowing that they'll receive happiness from your effort.  Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic.  I know I may never find that person, and it scares me.  It really scares the friggin' shit outta me.  I was told by the same friend who lent me the book that "it takes more courage to choose the harder route than to take the easy way and settle, which too many people do these days." Maybe it's courage, or maybe it's just bullheadedness.  Sometimes I wonder if I'm really willing to grow old and die single, rather than have settled for someone who makes me less than truly happy.  I hope it doesn't come down to that.

“If I had a single flower for every time I think about you, I could walk forever in my garden.” - Claudia Ghandi

Inner Space

friend: you know who you are man. You are one of the people I know, that knows himself.  This is just a minor set back

me: thanks man, that really means a lot you saying that that I know myself

friend: I know you do. that is why you wait for the right person, but you just got caught up in an ugly situation

The problem with knowing yourself is that there's hardly any more mystery, things that can truly surprise you personally.  Which is why this is so hard to let go of.  She surprised me, came outta nowhere, showed me that there is someone out there that can still throw me for a loop.  The problem is that now I'm stuck in the loop, and she's no longer in here with me.

"I could be bounded in a nutshell, and count myself a king of infinite space, were it not that I have bad dreams." - Hamlet

Year 5.

I can't believe it's been 5 years since my first post.  So much has happened in the last 5 years.  I thought that I would eventually stop writing in this blog, that I'd run out of things to say, and yah, there have been some dry spells.  But I guess this blog will always be here since as much as I want to avoid drama in my life, it always seems to find me.

Feb 24th... it's just another day.

"If you can't get rid of the skeletons in your closet, then at least try and make them dance." - Unknown

Perspectives

I guess I could say that 2010 hasn't started off the way I wanted it to. But you know what? I am still a lot better off than others out there. I still have my health, my home, my job, but most importantly my friends and family. There are others out there who have lost my entire list in the blink of an eye. As horrible as I feel for them, I can't help but feel happy and thankful that I still have those things in my life. Life may try to break me down and make me its bitch from time to time, but as long as I have those things in my life, I think I'll be ok. Thank you friends who have taken time to ask about me, to show genuine concern and say to me "Let's go out and talk about it". I am mostly an open book. But I tend to hide in the shelter of my own thoughts: I tend not to share openly. I share, but only if you choose to ask, or try and find out. I'm not going to shove my book in your face.  I'll just leave it on the table and let you peruse it at your own leisure. I guess I'm like that. If you show effort to know what's going on in my life, I will share, and ask for your book for me to read in return.

Anyway, back to my shelter... I guess having such a painful childhood made me put up a protective emotional and sometimes mental shell. It is in this habitat which I retreat into if I start to feel pain, a self-defense mechanism if you will. You see, when I was growing up, my friends were my only source of happiness. I didn't want to bring them down and let them know about my family problems and issues. I would put on a brave and happy face because I wouldn't want to ruin the good time we were having. None of my friends knew my parents were separated then eventually divorced for over 7 years. They all knew me as a super happy, never down, always there for a good laugh guy, and that's the way I wanted it to be. As I got older, I found out the hard way that this was becoming an impossible task. That sometimes, even your own burdens are too much for yourself to bear. I tried to remedy this by ignoring and putting aside my own burdens and taking on others problems as I tried to provide guidance to my friends. That worked for a little while but we all know that when you put problems on the back burner and ignore them, they tend to catch fire. When my own house catches fire, I believe it is my own responsibility to put it out, so I never ask for help. I guess that's why I write so much. It's my purging device, how I deal with the heat and the flames. But as the years have gone by, I also have been trying to use my friends more to share my problems with.

This is an apology to those who care about me, or who have ever cared about me. I know sometimes I may withdraw too deep in myself, I am sorry I don't share enough of me. It may be a month too late, but my New Year's resolution is to try and be more sharing of my problems with my friends and to be more involved in their lives as well.

I know I've used this quote in an earlier post, but it's so fitting with this post that I need to say it again.

"I may not be there all the time, but I will be there when you need me most." - SunriseSeeker